Building emotional resilience in our children, teens & young adults

Building emotional resilience in our children, teens & young adults

Building emotional resilience in our children, teens & young adultsBuilding emotional resilience in our children, teens & young adults

Our Why

Our Vision


 At Evolve, our aim is  to create a social shift derived from the needs of our young people.


In today's society, as parents and educators there is real need to equip our children, teenagers and young adults  with the emotional wellbeing to maximise their potential. 


At Evolve we have the tools, expertise, experience and approach to address this problem. With a united vision for the greater good of young people maximising their potential and contributing to a brighter future for all. 



OUr MISSION

By actively listening to the needs of our young people, Evolve 's mission is to:


• Create and deliver unique content, training and strategies to inspire and develop new practice in wellbeing and developmental education for parents, educators and institutions.


• Offer innovative bespoke programmes and tool kits to support the emotional and educational development of children, teenagers and young adults.


• Provide a diverse range of experiences and expertise in education, human development, wellbeing, psychology, mentoring and coaching,

 

• Provide young people with the skills, resources and experiences to fulfil their potential and develop as global citizens.

Our Values

Communication & Courage

This builds a supportive community where young people feel safe.


Trust & Confidentiality

Promotes collaboration and results


Active Listening & Compassion

Considers each student's unique situation & needs


Connection & Relationships

Leads to trust, autonomy & influence


The Challenges & Solutions

The challenges

Research shows that children, teenagers and young adults are facing significant social and mental health challenges in the current PSHE environment. 

  

1 in 8 children have a diagnosable mental health disorder, that's approximately three children in every classroom.


1 in 6 young people aged 16-24 has symptoms of a common mental disorder such as depression or an anxiety disorder. 


Half of all mental health problems manifest by the age of 14, with 75% by the age of 24.


Nearly half of 17-19 year olds with a diagnosable mental health disorder has self-harmed or attempted suicide at some point, rising to 52.7% for young women.


In 2017, suicide was the most common cause of death for both boys (16.2% of all deaths) and girls (13.3%) aged between 5 and 19, and a report from the Office of National Statistics (ONS) shows a 15% increase in the number of teenagers taking their own lives in the last year alone, and 67% since 2010. 

(Sources : Youngminds.org, ONS & NHS Digital)


Along with understanding the neuroscience and development of the teenage brain, it is a tricky time for parents, educators and students to listen or be heard and for children, teenagers and young people to feel the freedom to speak openly and freely.


What we do know is that teenagers and young adults are drawn to a herd mentality and peer admiration culture. 


Mental wellbeing is at the forefront of our focus, especially at a time when we are so disconnected and lonely - whilst being more connected than ever in the history of human evolution.

Primary Level

BULLYING, ABUSE, SELF ESTEEM, EMOTIONAL RESILIENCE, ANXIETY & SPECIAL NEEDS, 


Children as young as 7 are being written off by the system as 'un manageable'. From a mental health aspect, the lack of expertise and provision for children with special needs, behavioural issues or under 16's in general, which are on the increase - is putting our children and the system in crisis.


1 in 5 children have dyslexia, that's 20% of an average classroom .


Experts and parents are seeing children with huge potential and value, falling through the holes of a system which is failing them at such a young age...'Imagine' a world without John Lennon, Churchill Einstein, Branson or Picasso, all of whom were dyslexic.


GP's are inundated with cases and at bursting point due to a lack of support for this age group. The repercussions of these failings are catastrophic.


In a YoungMinds survey, three-quarters (76%) of parents said that their child's mental health had deteriorated while waiting for support from Child and Adolescent Mental Health Services (CAMHS).


In total, less than 1% of the total NHS budget is spent on children and young people's mental health services and the number of A&E attendances by young people aged 18 or under with a recorded diagnosis of a psychiatric condition has almost tripled since 2010. (Youngminds.org)


Department of Education figures show that almost 25,000 children aged seven or under were temporarily excluded from primary school in 2015/16. 


More than 15,000 fixed-period exclusions in primary school were for physical assault against an adult. The average length of a fixed suspension was 2.2 days.

(DofE -. 2017)


Secondary level

DRUGS, ALCOHOL, SELF ESTEEM, ABUSE, SELF HARM, BULLYING & ANXIETY, EXPULSIONS, SUICIDES, SEXUAL INTELLIGENCE, HEALTH & RELATIONSHIPS  


Research shows that we are losing a huge amount of gifted children who are are 'curious of life' and once on the teenage social circuit ,explore the boundaries on many levels. 


57.2% of kids have tried vaping although only 3.4% class themselves as current vapers- most don't realise it contains nicotine.


6% of 11 yr olds have tried drugs


A recent NHS report surveyed 14,000 11-15 year olds. 13% of children from affluent areas had drunk in the week before being surveyed. 1 in 4 of those from high affluence had ever taken drugs. (August 2019) 


50% of 14,000 11-15 year olds who had recently drunk, smoked or taken drugs were unhappy.(August 2019) 


555 of 15 yr olds were offered drugs in the last year - 37% tried them.

 

According to a Global Drugs Survey - Nors is one of the most popular recreational drugs - carrying a 7 yr prison sentence and is an illegal psychoative substance. 14-24 yrs are main users.


Class A drug use among 16 to 24 year olds has been increasing since 2011/12.
56% of Uni Students have tried Drugs . (NHS PHE Survey Data, NHS Digital & MORI)


If we look at recent reports around teenagers vaping, smoking, drug and alcohol usage at festivals, social gatherings, parties and during school time - this can have a detrimental effect on their education. 


In some instances, once caught - many schools fear dealing with, or admitting to -  having pupils under their school banner, as having an issue and often would prefer for it to go away quietly - by asking a pupil to leave - or not admitting an incident ever happened.


However, acting from a place of fear or choosing not to admit there is an issue - by making it someone else's problem (ie the parents or passing them onto another school) - punishment or expulsion, isn't the answer. 


The Department of Education figures show a 15% rise in the numbers of pupils expelled from state schools between 2015 -2017. That's 40 pupils expelled per day, with 83% of exclusions occurred in secondary schools.


Children with a recognised special educational need account for around half of all expulsions. In the state sector Head Teachers blame cuts to mental health and behaviour programmes.


'Punishment teaches kids how to avoid getting caught and is not the answer' 

Dr Steve Peters. Author of The Chimp Paradox


What does work in most cases is striking an internal, emotional chord with teenagers. This has more impact than turning them away or expelling them at a time when they need support the most.


There is a way of being the authority, without being the authoritarian. 


We strive to achieve an equilibrium and mutual respect all round between engaging the students, schools and parents by all working together.


university

ADDICTION, ANXIETY, DEBT, LONELINESS, RAPE & SUICIDE, SEXUAL INTELLIGENCE, HEALTH & RELATIONSHIPS  


University life these days exposes our young adults to drugs & alcohol, rape scandals, loneliness, suicides and debt. These all contribute to health & mental well being issues which now affects many young adults. 


Data from the Higher Education Statistics Agency revealed a 210% increase in the number of students who left university as a result of mental health issues between 2010 and 2015. 


A 2018 study by the Office for National Statistics found that young people aged 16-24 felt lonely more often than any other age group of adults.

The health impacts of loneliness have also been under scrutiny – studies have shown that people who are lonely are 50% more likely to die before their time, with research suggesting loneliness is as dangerous to health as smoking 15 cigarettes a day and more hazardous than being obese.(OSN)


Whilst academic intelligence is a requirement for gaining places at Universities - more and more cases are proving that there is a lack of emotional intelligence and life skills in young adults at University level. 


We are here to assist and equip young adults with social and emotional development - moral strength and a tool kit for life, to enable them to enter their careers being the very best versions of themselves - therefore growing tomorrow's resilient global citizens.

The Work Place & Society

ADDICTION, ANXIETY, DEBT, LONELINESS, RAPE, SUICIDE, GAMBLING, BULLYING, PEER PRESSURE, SEXUAL INTELLIGENCE, HEALTH & RELATIONSHIPS, PORNOGRAPHY


Inspirational leadership and moral fibre is lacking in today's society. Our political system, justice system and education systems are broken. Corporate cultures, ethics and ethos appear to be all about statistics and not the people. 


If Governments, corporates and institutions focused on and invested in the people - the statistics would improve, however, by focussing on and not investing in people- we lose the people; their commitment, focus, inspiration, creativity and energy for life.


Our environment is damaged and the disconnect in society is unravelling at such speed that as parents and educators it is hard to keep up - especially with social media and the unrealistic world of celebrity influencing our children.


How can we expect our teenagers and young people to keep up with the pressures put upon them today?


So, who do our teenagers and young people have to look up to - to make them feel valued or give them a voice?  This is the basis for our Peer Lead Programmes.


Sir David Attenborough said 'Few people will protect the natural world - if they don't first love and understand it.'  


We need to create an unprecedented global understanding, community and awareness, based on the very same ethos of love, understanding and support.


1in 3 adult mental health conditions relate directly to adverse childhood      experiences, and adults who experienced four or more adversities in their childhood are four times more likely to have low levels of mental wellbeing and life satisfaction. (Youngminds.org)


At Evolve we are determined to tap into everyone's potential and help support every individual's purpose and vision for their life journey.  

      

'To be whole first - allow yourself to be broken' Lao tzu 

SOLUTIONS

At Evolve we have a great team of industry experts and a wider network of CEO's , Corporates, Educationalists, Philanthropists, Community Leaders and Professional Facilitators  - all whom share our vision for supporting our young people and moving humanity on. 


'If the solutions within the system are so impossible to find, then maybe we should change the system itself...We are running out of time'. Greta Thunberg. 


Evolve is creating a platform for Teenage empowerment.

Case Studies - Our Lost Children

Primary/Junior Level: Emotional Resilience

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HARRY  

2006 - 04/03/2019, 


Harry Storey hanged himself at home after finding out from a WhatsApp group chat that the girl he had a secret crush on had a boyfriend, and had started dating another boy,.


Harry ’s friends thought he was joking when he commented to them on WhatsApp that he had thoughts about suicide after learning he had a love rival.


Harry's father, Andrew, walked into the house  after finishing work and saw Harry on the stairs out of the corner of his eye.


At first Harry's father thought his son was standing on the stairs looking down at his phone, before he realised what had happened.


The discovery of the schoolboy came as a complete shock to his devastated family who never had any worries about him and regarded him as a regular, happy boy with no previous mental health issues. 


Andrew Storey said: 

'I could not comprehend what I was seeing.'

Mr Storey told an inquest that he started CPR on his son when his wife Sue walked in he shouted that Harry had hanged himself and to call for help.


'Harry was a charismatic, charming, caring boy and sport was a huge part of his life, playing rugby, cricket and tennis. He would talk to anyone with ease and he had a natural ability to strike up a conversation which I admired him for. 


He was an 'outgoing, adventurous'  normal teenager who had 'high expectations' for himself and 'did not always see how successful he was'.

It came as a complete shock to me,' said Harry's Father.

 

Harry's friends thought of him as bubbly, but had heard him mention suicide before in a sarcastic manner.

In a series of WhatsApp messages, Harry had found out his close friend who he had a 'crush' on -  had a boyfriend and he mentioned suicide but carried on the conversation normally afterwards,


Harry was rushed by road ambulance from his home to the John Radcliffe Hospital in Oxford on March 1 after he was discovered by his father and remained in the paediatric intensive care unit until his tragic death three days later.


Pathologist Dr Deirdre O'Shea confirmed the cause of death was hypoxic ischemic brain injury due to asphyxiation by suspension.


An inquest judge said: 'Harry did the action himself and had made comments about suicide. However teenagers do say things of that nature. Harry's death was an extremely sad case which could not have been predicted or prevented by his family or friends'.


 The conclusion is one of Harry's death was misadventure. 






secondary level: drugs

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DANIEL  

1997 -20/01/2014 


 Dan was the younger son of Fiona and Tim Spargo-Mabbs. They, along, with Dan's older brother, Jacob, live in Croydon. He was in the lower sixth form of Archbishop Tenison CE High School in Croydon, where he'd attended since Year 7. 


He was bright, articulate, funny, chatty, popular and talented. He was a big, engaging, much loved character. He’d been voted prom king at the end of year 11. He’d played in the band for the school show just before Christmas in year 12. 


He’d recently signed up as a bone marrow donor. Dan had a daily paper round, but on top of his round, he used to run free errands for the elderly people to whom he delivered papers. 


The family are regular members of their church, Emmanuel South Croydon, where Dan was involved with the youth work, and had signed up for their first youth Alpha course, starting in January 2014. He helped out church members with gardening and other odd jobs.


On the evening of Friday 17th January 2014, Dan persuaded his mum to let him go to a party, with a group of friends. As Dan was usually responsible, Fiona agreed that he could go. 


Dan and his friends went to an illegal rave in Hillingdon instead of the party. It was the first time he'd been to a rave. 


At the rave Dan took MDMA, along with four of the others. He had no way of knowing that there was a lethal amount of MDMA in the bag he had. 


The other four were fine, but whichever of them had had that bag would have died. It happened to be Dan.


Dan's body temperature soared to 42 degrees centigrade and above. At this temperature, the body's organs can't cope and they shut down. 


For a couple of hours his friends couldn't find him, and when they did he was propped up outside the building in the rain with paramedics. Dan was rushed to A&E at 0430 on Saturday 18th January.


At 0530, the police knocked on Fiona and Tim's front door and gave them the shocking news that Dan was unconscious in intensive care and fighting for his life. Because his legs were swelling, he needed an operation to cut them open to relieve the pressure. 


He was on life support, his body unable to cope with the effects of the drug. 


During 18th January, Dan was transferred to King's College Hospital Liver Unit, one of the most specialised units in Europe. There, machines did the work of his heart, lungs, liver, kidneys and circulatory system. 


The staff did everything they could to save Dan's life, but at 1250 on Monday 20th January, Dan died, surrounded by his family.


Dan was just 16 when he died. He was one of the very last people anyone would have expected to come to harm from drugs, but he did. 


Tim, Fiona and Jacob felt if this could happen to someone like Dan, it could happen to anyone, and they wanted to do all they could to prevent this. Dan’s death is a tragedy that needn't have happened. 



University level: Addiction,

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ALEXA  

1989 - 21/09/17


The heartbreaking story of Lexi, written by her mother, Susan:
This is my daughter, Alexa. From the moment she was born to the moment she left this earth, she was adored by all those who's path she crossed. She was intelligent, well educated, well spoken, inquisitive, playful, kind and loving with a smile that lit up any room and warmed hearts. She loved books about spirituality, holistic living, books to help her understand the injustices in the world, and ways that she could find herself.  Alexa kept journals throughout her life with pages full of raw emotion, poetry, and delicate sketches. She was deeply sensitive and felt life intensely.
In the beginning of her college years Alexa excelled. Sometime later, still in college, she met a ‘friend’; a young man who gave Alexa her first dose of heroin. “Just give it a try”. “What harm can it do”? 


It was that first use, our daughter became physically and mentally addicted to this drug. She fought desperately and admiringly to overcome the tremendous grip heroin had on her life. Every single day was a battle for Alexa as well as those of us who loved her and had to watch her suffer. We did everything we could; would have given our lives for her. Despite the love and guidance bestowed upon her, the rehabs and detoxes, her perseverance, heroin inevitably took her in and suffocated every dream and aspiration she ever had.
Alexa died of an overdose on September 21st, 2017. She had periods of time where she was free from heroin. During these times she begged God to keep her sober, sought counselling, used holistic practices, and tried to keep her focus on holistic living, organics, and exercise. But the darkness would eventually settle in again and she would turn to the very drug that caused her so much pain, desperate to escape for a time from her tortuous thoughts of guilt and shame she felt -  hurting the family she loved so. 


Alexa described heroin as a “very lonely drug that takes you away from every part of your life and leaves you hanging on the brink of death”.

She was given every opportunity a child should have. We are hard working parents who have raised our children with morals and values. We are not addicts. We are normal people who have always given the best to our children. Alexa was not a ‘street junkie’. She worked from the age of 16 and supported herself up until a few months before her death. 


She was somebody. She was our beloved daughter. And we will forever wonder if there was anything we could have done differently.

 If this can happen to Alexa then it can happen to anyone. It only takes one time to become addicted to heroin. 


ONE TIME is what it was for Alexa. She took heroin having no idea the power it would have over her. Alexa used for the first time on her college campus while she was drinking and her judgement was weakened. Your loved one could be offered heroin, just like Alexa. He/she might take it and think they won’t get addicted, just like Alexa. You can be assured that if my precious daughter, who had the world at her feet, could become addicted to heroin and die from an overdose, it can just as easily happen to your child or loved one as well.


Thank you,
Susan Frost Lamoureux .

SECONDARY LEVEL: Online Gaming

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BRECK 

2003 - 17/2/17


Breck Bednar was a 14 year old boy, from Caterham, Surrey, who loved technology and online gaming.



He was groomed via the internet and stabbed to death on February 17th 2014 by someone he met online.

SECONDARY LEVEL: Bulling Stress AnxIety

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SAM  

2005 -  15/07/19


Sam  Connor was a  lovely 14 yr old with a sense of humour  - his devastated family described him as a  shy  'sensitive little soul'.  


The tragic 14-year-old, was struck by a train in front of 50 of his horrified classmates after he lay down on the tracks of an on coming train.


Sam was being bullied  - at school. according to friends.  

He was also anxious about his Year 9 Grades.


The school say they had no record of bullying in school. 


Sam left his backpack and mobile phone - along with it's passcode with a friend moments before he lost his life.

UNIVERSITY, Work & SOCIETY: Suicide

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ROSE

1991 - 12/02/2016 


Rose Polge was a beautiful, caring and capable junior doctor in her first year at Torbay Hospital. As with all junior doctors, she worked long shifts and antisocial hours. 

  Aged 25, Rose took her own life by walking into the sea.


 Rose’s mother linked her daughter’s suicide directly to her conditions of work, stating ; “Exhaustion because of long hours, work related anxiety, and despair at her future in medicine'. 

Her sister, Hazel, also a doctor, said "Often she would go without a break, getting home long after her shift had officially finished, ensuring everything was done to the best standard possible.

In caring so well for everyone else, she didn’t care enough for herself.' 

 

In a family statement read at the inquest, It said many doctors worked "under terrific pressure" and coped with "fatigue and heavy workloads" which could "generate massive levels of anxiety".

It continued: "Doctors can feel a dreadful sense of personal failure and inadequacy if they struggle to keep working. Sometimes, the despair can be sudden and overwhelming."

  Describing the last time he saw his girlfriend alive, Alasdair Hawley told the court: "I remember her asking me if she left medicine would I still love her."

Rose's body was found several weeks later at Portland Bill Headland.